We are the only beings on this planet, the only living things who want things to remain the same. All other living things here are in the ease of the constant change that we actually are. If you look at scans of the inside of the body, we are molecules of constant movement. We are molecules inside molecules of constant creation, yet we have these expectations of sameness.
Many believe that the way to keep a relationship working for us is to make sure it stays the same. This does not happen in nature. If you’re a gardener, you know that things grow and change constantly. Every day, every second, a garden is growing and continuing to create itself. As the seasons change, so goes the garden. Change is nature’s best friend.
Creating relationship is much the same way! It happens continuously. It is not an end zone place where once we’ve crossed into it, we’ve reached the goal and now we are finished. Relationship is a constant contributing and being contributed to. It is, as we are, in a constant state of change.
So, what if, instead of trying to ‘maintain’ our relationships which is the commonly used word in this reality, we are in a constant state of questioning?
Asking questions is a powerful tool. It helps us to create possibility in our lives. We often find ourselves in conclusion about the situations in our lives. We accept the idea that we are at the effect of the world, of circumstances, of others. Asking questions will help you become more spacious for you!
You have the power to create relationships that are a constant contribution to you.
You have the ability to become more and more of everything that you are and you want to be. This is not some trick, or some complicated series of study that you must take. This is not a list of rules that will somehow make you better. You don’t need to be ‘better’. You just need to be you in all the possibility that you are.
The more you are willing to play with what would work for you, what you are willing to be or do differently without justification, the more you will come to know and create what you truly desire.
What if you created your relationships from the ease of a question?
Here are some Tools to keep your relationships growing and green. Ask the following questions every day:
What possibilities are here for me?
Is this relationship a contribution to what I would like to create for the future?
Does this work for me?
Does this work for you, partner (child, boss, friend, business, bank account)?
By playing with these questions every day, you can tap into the energy of constant creation that keeps relationships from becoming still, stagnant and dead. Keep it growing and you keep it green!
Wishing you continuous creations in every relationship!